Why the hell should you listen to my advice?
by Ida Barrett | 25 Feb 2022
I dunno... you tell me... Read More...
Advice
Married but dating...
by Ida Barrett | 12 Nov 2021
Recently, I developed a crush on a woman in my life. We just met but she and I get along as if we were friends for years. So much so that I want to ask my husband for permission to date her. I've never thought of an open marriage with any seriousness before now and I only am considering it with her. Am I being honest enough with myself and how can I go about telling the love of my life that I want to explore how I feel about this one woman who makes me feel indescribable. Desperately Seeking Answers Read More...
GIRLS
by Ida Barrett | 20 Oct 2021
I looove girls! I’m bi and need more experience. I’ve only messed around with a couple of my friends, so I don’t have much to go off from. How do I meet other women that are looking to hookup?? Read More...
January 2021
by Ida Barrett | 04 Jan 2021
It is only day 3 of 2021 and damn... Read More...
Stuck? Right there with ya...
by Ida Barrett | 06 Aug 2020
I feel stuck. Why am I so afraid of succeeding that I can’t get off my ass? Maybe I’m afraid of failure, too... I don’t feel depressed. But I need a momentum. And I’m failing to find it. @IDAadvice: How do you handle the feeling when you start to feel S t U c K? Read More...
What to wear and how to wear it
by Ida Barrett | 12 May 2020
"Yooooo girl. How do I dress professionally without looking like an old woman?" I mean for now...stick to the sweats but when we can actually all leave our homes again... Read More...
COVID-19 times is weird times....
by Ida Barrett | 05 May 2020
2020 is fucking weird and no one is into it and everyone is handling it differently and everyone is experiencing it SO differently and apparently I am handling it by...buying things? Spoiler - it ain't working. Read More...
Being an ally...
by Ida Barrett | 23 Mar 2020
"Does it make you a bad ally to date someone who isn’t an ally?" Being an ally means more than calling yourself an ally... Read More...
Athens, GA COVID-19
by Ida Barrett | 18 Mar 2020
Restaraunts, bars, bar tenders...oh my. Time to step up y'all Read More...
Valentine Woes
by Ida Barrett | 18 Feb 2020
Ida, My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We are good together. We don't fight really, we go on dates and all of that but I don't feel like he is really trying anymore. He seems to be very comfortable in our relationship which I guess is fine but for Valentine's day we went to dinner. That was it. That was him making an effort. I feel like I go above and beyond for him and he does very little to "show his love". Am I being a "princess" ?? Read More...
This is your slap in the face
by Ida Barrett | 31 Dec 2019
I’ve never felt anything like this before. I caught feelings for a boy, super strong feelings. He’s super nice and sweet and dreamy and attractive. We got pretty close this summer and fall as friends. All my other friends that know him think he’s awful, terrible person, manipulative, bratty, etc. I believed them but I still had feelings for him. He even was serious with me once and told me that I pissed him off and to never do something again. After that we distanced ourselves a bit but I still find him so attractive. I’m in a weird state of I want us to be a thing but also knowing it’s not good and he’s not a good person. Any advice? Read More...
Something new and something blue
by Ida Barrett | 12 Dec 2019
I'm getting married soon, and I'm so very excited. I feel very comfortable in my relationship. Things between us have kind of always seemed too good to be true...and I guess I've always struggled with that a little. My childhood home was one of abuse, and a divorce that didn't come quick enough. When I was younger, I swore I'd never marry because of what I saw my parents go through. Obviously I changed my mind as I got older and I really thought I had worked through those feelings, but with the wedding getting closer all those old trust and commitment issues are sort of bubbling up. I feel as though a past I'm not responsible for is weighing down what should be one of the happiest times of my life. Any advice for a nervous bride? Sincerely -I'm My Something Blue Read More...
Depression is a bitch
by Ida Barrett | 21 Nov 2019
This shit is getting old doing it by myself so Imma include y'all on this one... Read More...
So you want a divorce??
by Ida Barrett | 08 Nov 2019
My wife loves dogs but I can’t stand them. She has one dog that sheds a lot. Its hair gets everywhere, all over the apartment and my things. I thought I’d be ok with having one as long as I didn’t have to take care of it. But more times than not I’m left feeding the dog, letting it out of its crate while she plays on her phone or does whatever, and constantly vacuuming or sweeping the massive amounts of hair this dog leaves everywhere. It’s a good dog but I just can’t stand the dog smell in the apartment, all of the hair...everything! I love my wife but I wish she would just get rid of this dog. I feel its unfair of me to ask her to give up something she loves and sometimes think it’s better if maybe she found someone who loves dogs like she does but I’ve tried to live with it and it gets harder and now the dog kind of annoys me. Is that completely irrational? Nothing against people who like to have pets, it’s just something I could live without. I now see that it’s something that should have been discussed prior to tying the knot. What should I do?! Help! Sincerely Wrong Tree Read More...
Too sensitive?
by Ida Barrett | 22 Oct 2019
Dear Ida, I’m in a sorority, and for the past two semesters it seems as if none of the girls who are supposed to be my sisters actually like me. Last semester it really made me withdraw into myself. Over the summer I really focused on myself and refreshing for this semester. I’ve been trying to be more involved hoping that people would warm up to me but I still feel like no one wants me around. Sometimes I say something and girls will literally just go mute until I leave the room. Am I too sensitive or is this an actual problem? Read More...
You don't owe anyone a coming out story
by Ida Barrett | 11 Oct 2019
October 11th is National Coming Out Day... I have some thoughts... Read More...
how to ruin a friendship
by Ida Barrett | 07 Oct 2019
Dear Ida, how can I tell if a girl is into me? Should I wait for her to bring it up or should I ask? I feel as though I’ve been pretty obvious, but I’m just not sure. If she doesn’t like me, I don’t want to ruin a potentially good friendship by asking. Send help. Read More...
Self care according to me - a qualified professional
by Ida Barrett | 24 Sep 2019
You look like you’re living your best life! What are your favorite self-care activities? Read More...
So sex.... let's talk about it
by Ida Barrett | 11 Sep 2019
Ida, am I a hoe if my body count is over 50? Read More...
Is the money worth it?
by Ida Barrett | 06 Sep 2019
Hi Ida, I recently started a new gig because my old one wouldn’t pay me enough and I applied for a different role in the company and wasn’t selected for the position. Now that I am just getting settled in my new role, my old company is asking if I’m now interested in that role I applied for before I left. Do I take the risk and leave a seemingly good company with a guaranteed salary for my old company for the potential to make a lot more money in the long run via commission? Halp. Read More...
Let's quit everything and travel the world!
by Ida Barrett | 05 Sep 2019
Ida, I need some advice. I do not like my job and I would much rather travel the world and do fun things like write and paint. But, I have no money. Please advice how I can do this ASAP! Ps. You're the best Read More...
plants are part of this whole thing too...
by Ida Barrett | 02 Sep 2019
I am a plant mom with no plant care ability, just doing what I can and hopefully that's enough. Read More...
Sis - get your $$
by Ida Barrett | 24 Aug 2019
dear ida, how do i get ppl to pay me for the work i do for them without actually having to ASK them to PAY me?!!?!?3$/@/ sincerely, $$$ on a dime Read More...
No low stakes action movies?
by Ida Barrett | 24 Aug 2019
You know what grinds my gears Ida? The fact that there are no low stakes action movies anymore. The first Fast and Furious movie was about stopping a gang from stealing DVD players. Now? They're racing Russian submarines in government sanctioned super cars? What happened? I just want to see Terry Crews go undercover in a local coffee shop to find how drugs are getting into a community that's already struggling with its identity because of gentrification. Maybe a romantic subplot with a community manager as she helps him understand why the youth don't trust police officers. Read More...